"Battered Heart" Callously borrowed from http://whyblackwomenareangry. blogspot.com/2008_12_01_archive. html
I found this quote that I’m going to treasure for a while. Maybe it, too, can help me get through the next week. It seems to hold some answers to some of the very profound questions I’ve been asking myself lately. I’ve been wondering about the difference between “love” and being “in love.” As our relationship has changed from this overwhelming, passionate burning to this quiet, lake-like water depth love. It’s still and quiet and we’re adjusting to the realities of one another. I knew all the quirks about him and accepted them. Living with them on the day-to-day has been a little more difficult once the flame has died down to a quiet stillness. I’m certain he’s experiencing the same thing. Heaven knows, *I’m* no damn angel.
Being In Love Is A Feeling; Love Is Something Else
EVER BEEN IN LOVE? Sure, twice. But I love what C.S. Lewis said: “Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing… It is a noble feeling, but it is still a feeling. Now no feeling can be relied on to last in its full intensity, or even to last at all… But, of course, ceasing to be ‘in love’ need not mean ceasing to love. Love in this second sense – love as distinct from ‘being in love’ is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by (in Christian marriages) the grace which both parents ask, and receive, from God. They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other; as you love yourself even when you do not like yourself. They can retain this love even when each would easily, if they allowed themselves, be ‘in love’ with someone else. ‘Being in love’ first moved them to promise fidelity; this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. It is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it.” He also said, “Love, in the Christian sense, does not mean an emotion. It is a state not of the feelings but of the will; that state of the will which we have naturally about ourselves, and must learn to have about other people.” (from Mere Christianity) I’m also convinced that it’s not a matter of FINDING the right one – it’s a matter of BECOMING the right one.
Quote borrowed from http://www.eons.com/blogs/entry/721-Being-in-love-is-a-feeling-Love-is-something-else
Sometimes there’s so much pain in change – good and bad. Right now, I’m just hanging in and hanging on, doing what I need to do.
The Fray – You Found Me
Okay, I realize I’m posting comments on all of your blogs haha! But that’s because they all seem to strike a cord!!! This is so true. I to am dealing with getting over the honey moon phase! I just read an old conversation I had saved that we had and I found it myself saddened after word! Demanding where has all the romance gone? *sigh* and then life goes on I suppose! But thank you so much as your story let’s me know I’m not alone!
LOL. No to worry, H! I LOVE getting comments on my blogs. I can’t believe after not writing for so long, someone found me and enjoyed my writings.
We’re way beyond the “honeymoon” phase by now and we’re just comfortably going day after day. Luckily I found someone who loves to play (though it makes me NUTS sometimes) and I find great satisfaction in laughing and giggling and playing with him. Not so much huge heat and passion anymore, but that might be the price we pay in exchange for deeper love and acceptance?